READY TO REDUCE STRESS, WORRY, AND FEAR?

This has been an unprecedented time in our world and in our nation, and we are enduring immense stress that challenges the mental health and well-being of even the most resilient among us.  We are in difficult times, but you don’t have to walk through them alone. 

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. -Viktor Frankl

Do you feel “broken” sometimes with all this stress?  Are you worried about whether things will ever return to “normal?”  Maybe you are worried that in some ways they will return to the status quo, and you hope you are not wishing in vain for a “woke” world better than before.  Hope does not disappoint.  This situation, too, will pass.  I believe God has a way of turning very negative situations into a positive turn of events.  Tragedies turn into triumphs, tests become testimonies, and messes become messages.  In other words, please keep hope alive and remember that dark seasons do pass.

My suffering will add an essential contribution to my ability to understand others and to help other people. -Viktor Frankl

During this season when many of us may feel broken, and we are grieving the brokenness we see all around us, consider the idea that we may be broke open.  We are broke open ready for love and understanding, and this, my friend, is often when we are most ready to hear and receive it.

The Lord has been reminding me to not “own” fear by referring to it as “my fear”; He did not give us a Spirit of fear but one of power, love, and a sound mind.  Just that subtle wording change can make a big difference in our peace.  It allows us to get some distance from fear; in other words, to begin to recognize that worry is often a frequent distraction in our lives that is counterproductive.  While choosing to not give in to fear, this certainly does not mean that we throw caution to the wind!  Some have taken this to the extremes, and take unnecessary risks which are also counterproductive at best.  Fear is, after all, an emotion that also exists for good reason, to alert us to real danger.  Fear becomes excessive for most of us, though, because we tend to become anxious about some things that are not actual or likely threats.  Most of us have had the experience of realizing that we didn’t need to worry about something after all, because the thing we feared did not come to pass, and the situation worked out better than expected.  At other times, we are indeed worrying about actual threats; however, we are dwelling on things that are really not in our control.  When we ruminate about things that are not in our control, we are expending time and energy getting off center from our peace.  Worry creates an illusion of control, but in reality, the worry itself often makes us feel out of control! 

Despair is suffering without meaning -Viktor Frankl

 I know all too well that many of us have also experienced real danger and real threats, and this certainly makes it difficult at times to trust that we need not worry.  Did you know that some scholars say there are 365 Bible verses that encourage us to not worry or fear?  One for every day of the year!  This is because we truly need a daily reminder to be alert to the possibility that some unnecessary fear is encroaching on our thoughts, distracting us, bringing our mood down, and stealing our peace.  When we are alert to this, we are more likely to stop it in its tracks before going down a rabbit hole envisioning the worst-case scenarios.  Oh, how we worry and we fear of things which in a year will disappear!  It is not always easy to shut off worrisome thoughts, and it often requires quite a bit of persistence.  This does not mean there is “something wrong with you” or that you should beat yourself up for not being able to quell the thoughts sooner.  Those self-blaming thoughts are just another distraction coming upon you, and also something you don’t need to own.  There is a reason why the journey of faith is often referred to as “the good fight”; it can certainly feel like a fight somedays to keep our heads above water and not succumb to fear, especially when indeed we live in a world where there are so many valid fears.

 So how do we shut it off? How do we reduce stress, worry, and fear?